Category: success


Lessons of Life

The lessons of life help us to perceive the world around us, evaluate our interactions, and measure our results.  Our past experiences can shorten our learning curve and help us get an accurate picture of how we are and what we do.  I’ve made some pretty embarrassing mistakes in life.  Okay, the truth is I’ve made some of the same mistakes over and over.  But, somehow along the way I made less and less of the same mistakes as I plowed through the school of hard knocks.  Even more, I found that learning from my mistakes is a basic improvement that transforms failure into a stepping stone for success.  It’s amazing how we can restructure negative experiences into a positive lesson.  In fact, in learning from our mistakes, we gain valuable insight into our inner life and outer interactions.  The ability to correct or mistakes offers us an opportunity to improve and the improvement motivates us to keep on going.  As a matter of fact, “keep on keeping on” is a lesson I need to learn before I could succeeded in anything.  At the most basic level our experiences are either reactionary or controlled.  Most of the error occurs in reactionary action.  Through self-evaluation we can gain control of our reactions and manage our activities.  Once we control our activities we can direct them toward our goals.  Directing our activities and managing our behavior is what it takes to graduate from the school of hard knocks.     

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Get Motivated, Get Busy, Get the Goal!

Guarding our thoughts to protect our emotions is a necessary game of life.  We should replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts ASAP to pull ourselves out of a slump before it gains momentum.   Having predominantly motivating thoughts helps us to focus on the task at hand and neutralizes negative thoughts.  Never the less, thieves lurk just outside our ears awaiting for opportunities to still our attention and kill our motivation. 

The first motivation killer is a lack of confidence. When you only think about what you want, your mind creates explanations for why you aren’t getting it. This creates negative thoughts.  We can overcome this thought pattern by expressing gratitude and appreciation.  Also think about fun times and the great experiences when you impressed yourself.  Repeating positive things you already know can improve your mindset.  The mind distorts reality to confirm what it wants to believe.  The more positively you think, the more examples your mind will discover to confirm that belief.

The second motivation killer is a lack of focus. Avoid focusing on what you don’t want and don’t have.  Rather be thankful for your accomplishments and what you do have.  Set a realistic goal and see it through to completion.  Beware because we often think in terms of fear and lack instead of confidence and abundance.  The problem with this type of thinking is that fear is confusing and it causes us to avoid things and not take action.  We have to overcome fear because it feeds on itself and drains our motivation.

By focusing your mind on a positive goal instead of an ambiguous fear, you put your brain to work.  Your brain would rather be happy, and devise a plan for your success, instead of worrying about the future.  When you have a realistic plan you start to do something about it and your emotions follow along in harmony.  You gain momentum, confidence and energy.  When you act on your plan, you focus on goals.  Those actions are the direction of your day-to-day strategy for success one hour at a time.  A lack of direction kills motivation because without an obvious next step we give in to procrastination.  We need a constant reminder to avoid procrastination, because it’s easy to waste an entire day.

When my motivation starts to fade, I check my thought process for overwhelming negativity.  I redirect my thoughts to positive affirmations and think of positive actions that I can do immediately.  The first one is a small task I’ve been meaning to do, like make an important phone call and the second moves me toward a bigger goal that may be more intimidating like monitoring my forecasting budget.  I immediately do the smaller task.  This creates positive momentum and inspires me to take the first step towards achieving the bigger goal.  Sometimes I go back and forth from small to big and from big to small and from small to small to big to small periodically to get out of a slump, create positive reinforcement, and get long-term plans moving.

Even still most of us have periods of low energy and even the occasional attempt that is off the target.  Always remember our main objective is to consistently move toward our goals.  In order to have a consistently positive mindset we have to discipline our minds and be on guard against the top three motivation killers.  Fight against lack of confidence, lack of focus and lack of direction as you would fight against a burglar trying to rob you of your gold.  Keep them at a distance and don’t let them catch you off guard.  You have the potential and the tools to protect your motivation and boost yourself to success.  We all can be goal getters!

Characteristics of Success

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