Category: self help


We need help

This is the perfect time to turn you dreams into goals, because the months ahead offer great opportunity for practical dreams to come true.  Does that statement ring true for you in your current situation?  What’s going on in your life?  Are you facing a big problem?  Are you struggling with frustration and grief?  Do you live in chaos?  Maybe, you’re the opposite, you want to celebrate, but you’re alone?  Or, you’ve been successful, but now you’re not really fulfilled?  The fact is we all have different stages in life, in which reach out.  We can’t always “go it alone”.  We need other resources to help us.  Many people, many families, many communities, many organizations are reaching out.  We are reaching out to find resources that can help us make changes or turn our situation around.  I’m sure if someone offered you some money with no strings attached you’d take it, right.  How about this, why don’t we reach out to others during our time of need.  We understand what they are going through; we face the same challenges.  We might know someone who can give them a better alternative or we could recommend someone who does good work.  We could offer our services for a discount or for a fair trade.  If you believe in what you want to do, and it’s morally right, do it.

Lessons of Life

The lessons of life help us to perceive the world around us, evaluate our interactions, and measure our results.  Our past experiences can shorten our learning curve and help us get an accurate picture of how we are and what we do.  I’ve made some pretty embarrassing mistakes in life.  Okay, the truth is I’ve made some of the same mistakes over and over.  But, somehow along the way I made less and less of the same mistakes as I plowed through the school of hard knocks.  Even more, I found that learning from my mistakes is a basic improvement that transforms failure into a stepping stone for success.  It’s amazing how we can restructure negative experiences into a positive lesson.  In fact, in learning from our mistakes, we gain valuable insight into our inner life and outer interactions.  The ability to correct or mistakes offers us an opportunity to improve and the improvement motivates us to keep on going.  As a matter of fact, “keep on keeping on” is a lesson I need to learn before I could succeeded in anything.  At the most basic level our experiences are either reactionary or controlled.  Most of the error occurs in reactionary action.  Through self-evaluation we can gain control of our reactions and manage our activities.  Once we control our activities we can direct them toward our goals.  Directing our activities and managing our behavior is what it takes to graduate from the school of hard knocks.     

Thalia, Melpomene and Spirituality

Spirituality relates our soul and mind to other people, communities, nature and divinity.  The soul is the internal principle by which we think, feel, and will.  The soul animates our bodies, and the mind makes the activities of the soul the subject of our consciousness.  Spiritual practices like contemplation, meditation and prayer can offer inspiration, orientation and development in life.  Understanding spirituality and expressing spirituality isn’t always easy.  Sometimes we need help understanding ourselves and expressing our “inner person”.  Many people correlate art and spirituality, because art moves the “inner person”.  Art can help us to articulate our perspective and it can help express how we interpret other points of view.  Art can help us to drift away from the things that pre-occupy us and transcend our situations.  Sometimes art can also reveal something about us from an outside perspective.  You’ve heard music that moved your soul, you’ve seen art that made you ponder, and you’ve seen a show that made you cry.  These examples relate inwardly, but have you ever attributed these expressions to spirituality?  Have you thought of comedy as being spiritual?  Consider Thalia and Melpomene as an artistic attempt to demonstrate my point.  Thalia is the muse of Comedy in greek drama and is shown as a laughing mask and Melpomene is the muse of tragedy and is shown as a crying mask.  Comedy easily demonstrates a picture of how we are and the situations we face.  Through comedy we can take comfort in an outside point of view and soothe our emotions by making light of our characteristics or actions.  More importantly, comedy can uncover the accurate perception of self in a light-hearted way, without traumatizing us by what we see.  On the other hand, tragedies can really mix up our emotions.  Sometimes the trauma of a tragedy is too much to handle and it becomes the drama that get’s you stuck in an emotional state.  Hmmm…. Maybe that’s why the drama queen/king rides from one emotional roller coaster to the next.  Whether art is expressed in the comedy of  Thalia or tragedy of Melpomene, it helps us to relate our lot in life, deal with stuff and gain awareness.  Never the less, our perceptions of the inner-self predict how we see and behave in the world around us.  We have great potential to take control of the way we think, feel, and will.

fight for what you want

If you have nothing to start with except the capacity to know what you want and the determination to stand by that desire until it is realized, you can literally think your desire into existence.  It takes initiative, faith and the will to win in order to carry out your goal.  On the contrary, if you give up on a goal before it is realized how will you ever know how close you were to the finish?  How will you know accomplishment and satisfaction unless you see it through?  Moreover, one of the most common causes of failure is quitting when you are taken over by temper and defeat.  Everyone is guilty of this mistake at one time or another, but don’t make it a habit.  Is this your time for success or is this time for another excuse?  Do you realize that more gold has been minded from the brains of men than has ever been taken from the earth?  Let’s start digging for ingenuity and innovation.  You’ve heard about the power of the mind.  Let’s couple the power of the mind with the motivation of desire.  Together the ingenuity of the mind, the motivation of desire and the actions that success requires can be transmuted into gold.  Know in your mind what you desire.  When you do know what you want and you focus your actions toward getting your goal accomplished; be confident, but beware because before success comes you will meet with temporary defeat and perhaps failure.  The irony of success is a familiar failure, but the value of failure is the lesson it teaches.  So failure isn’t a disappointment unless you want it to be.  Adopt a definite purpose and stand by it with bull-dog determination until your goal is accomplished.

soaring imagination

Your mental state can make you great

Learn everything you can about the mental game

Never allow the actions of others to stop what you are meant to do

The questions that drive you will decide your quality of life

Determine your actions by importance and not by urgency

Use your time wisely and do the things that will bring the intended results

Keep your mind on your goal